One thing I've learned over the past several weeks is that when it becomes impossible to keep all the balls in the air it's okay to let a few of them drop. Not only is it okay, it sometimes becomes essential. It's also okay or even necessary to ask for help locating the dropped balls. It's also okay or necessary to ask for help keeping the essential balls in the air.
In families illness doesn't just happen to the person with the diagnoses. Everyone suffers and everyone lets things drop and slide. We're human. Sometimes it takes an incredibly serious illness to prove it to us.